When life is more than we can handle and our hearts are downcast, we have to rehearse His goodness until our hearts can catch up with the truth.Read More
Dear Mama Girl,
I see you. I see you trying to be all the things to all your people.
I see you tired beyond belief, but still making an effort to show up to the endless demands.
I see you juggling work life and home life.
I see you striving to keep up with what everyone else is doing in the world. I see you keeping score for all the ways you don’t quite measure up, try as you might.
I see you finding time for yourself in the crevices of your day, and then feeling guilty for not being with your family instead.
I see you saying “yes” to things you know you probably shouldn’t take on right now. I see you trying to live up to expectations—the most demanding of all your own.
I see you picking fights with your husband, when all you really want is to laugh with him again. I see you wondering if he still thinks you’re beautiful.
I see you questioning your worth and your value and your identity in this season.
I see you trying to be both girl and mom. I see you wondering if the girl you once knew is in there at all anymore—underneath all the snot and the messes and the never alone-ness.
I see you loving your job as a mom more than anything, but simultaneously wondering if there’s more for you.
Mama girl, I see you.
May you see that you can in fact be both—mama and girl.
May you see that the girl you once knew is in fact gone, but that a better one has taken her place.
May you see all the ways it has changed you for good.
May you see the ways it has taught you more about your Father’s love for you.
May you see your role as a mom as the greatest gift…but not the only gift.
May you see that the expectations you strive to live up to were never meant to be your prison.
May you see that the rhythm of your days is determined by you.
May you see that your striving does not equal thriving.
May you see that your truest rest comes from surrender—surrender of the ways you try to get it right and the ways you fall short. Surrender of the desires of your heart.
May you see that guilt and shame and condemnation are not from God…and not for you.
May you see that He has the best for you, mama.
May you see that He made you to be both mama and girl—and that when you live in both, you’re actually better at both.
May you see that motherhood is sanctifying work and that it’s what has changed you for the better.
May you see that all the stuff that feels heavy and monotonous right now is actually doing it’s job—chipping away all the rough edges in you to give way to the masterpiece He has been forming.
May you see that you are valued and priceless and perfectly imperfect.
So lean into Him and lean on your tribe.
Let go of perfect and let go of lies.
Keep your head up, mama girl.
You’ve got this.
A Mama Girl like you
Hi friends! I’m so glad you found yourself here on the pages of this website, and especially here on the “Made Enough” blog page. I’m Tara—wife to a pastor, mama to two little cuties, teacher, and now author. I’m a coffee and dark chocolate enthusiast and a big advocate for slow mornings. I try my best to always keep it real, because who has time for anything else? I can’t wait to get to know YOU.
This blogging thing is a brand new adventure for me. I have always loved to write, and have considered off and on for what seems like a million years starting a blog (I know, like every other person in the world). With the launch of my book Remain I’ve had so many fun new opportunities present themselves and I can’t help but feel this calling on my soul into new spaces and places.
I claimed the word “flourish” as my word for 2019, not knowing what exactly it would mean for me. I knew for sure that this year would bring growth and transformation. It’s easy to see those exciting words and forget that with growth and transformation come risk, uncertainty and a stretching of yourself in sometimes painful ways. It’s uncomfortable and scary, but I’m going for it. One of the biggest leaps I’ve taken so far is to go from working as a full-time teacher to being home with my kiddos and pursuing all that this author business can bring. I have some big dreams and plans, but above all I am trusting in His. Over and over again He has been faithful. Over and over again He has provided. Over and over again He is working in the background even when I can’t see Him in the foreground. Over and over again He transforms the most broken parts of me and uses them for His glory.
Maybe you can relate to my story. Maybe you have a God-honoring dream in your heart and you’ve been debating whether or not to go for it. The least you can do is to commit it to prayer! What if that thing is your best yes? What if it takes stepping out and being vulnerable to fully realize who God made you to be? I one hundred percent believe that when we are walking in His will, we meet our fullest potential to be our greatest selves.
Maybe for you it doesn’t mean a career change or doing anything crazy different, but more of a redefining of your current self. Maybe you struggle to be content, have a difficult time making solid friends, wish you were more patient with your kids, or lack confidence in a certain area of your life. Whatever it is that you are dreaming of and striving for, let me remind you of something: you were MADE ENOUGH. Nothing we strive and dream for will make us more or less. No reputation or job or hobby can ever bring us true satisfaction. Every. single. thing. in our lives WILL let us down at some point. God, however, will not. He made us enough from the beginning when He created us in His image. Maybe it seems counterintuitive that we should dream and also be enough at the same time, but it’s absolutely not.
Your King created you with the very desires and skills and talents that currently reside in you. He wants us to dream and grow and be transformed through the renewing of our minds so that we can be effective in loving and reaching His people. If we park too much in the “self-made rockstar” mindset that we see all over social media which can seem so appealing and motivational, we end up a prideful fake version of what He really intends for us. Rather, let’s walk in the complete God-given confidence that we were prequalified and hand stamped “enough” from our very beginning.
YOU were “made ENOUGH”.
P.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Spill your dreams, thoughts, stories or encouragements in the comments below.